It has come to my attention that there is a terrible rumor going around about men: that we're selfish in bed. Hey, I'll admit, there's not a man I know who will decline oral sex from a woman he fancies. I mean, it's a blowjob! It's one of the all-time greatest discoveries—just ahead of Columbus finding America. Still, I take issue with this rumor. Because as much as men like to receive, we also love to give.
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Oh, the joys of oral sex. Sure, receiving it is awesome, but giving oral sex is important for your sex life, too. As much as I enjoy it now, I'll admit that I wasn't always a fan. Learning to communicate what feels good will make you more confident and, ultimately, more likely to come. Needless to say, the more often your partner orally pleasures you, the more quickly you'll be able to achieve this zen attitude about getting eaten out. I can't speak for everyone, but I know a lot of women need intense mental focus in order to achieve an O. It can be a vicious cycle: If you're worried about whether or not you'll come, you're likely to get distracted, making it almost impossible to reach the ultimate goal.
Sexuality is an integral part of any healthy, well-balanced relationship. Sex helps to bring you closer in a way that only romantic relationships can foster. Where, how, and how often you have it is totally up to the two or more people in an intimate and loving relationship.
Just like the rest of your sex routine, oral benefits from mixing it up. For those with vulvas, there are typically two kinds of toys that mimic the pleasure of oral sex: suction vibrators that feel like suction and use waves and vibration for ultra-intense oral feeling and faux-tongue-like toys that have rubber or silicone nubbins that mimic the more superficial feeling of a literal tongue on your vulva. For faux-tongue-mimicry, we like the Lelo Ora 3, which has a thin layer of silicone stretched over a drum with a tongue-like nubbin that moves in circles and different patterns, that along with vibration, can feel very real. You can also use these toys with a partner the next time your tongue gets tired, or show your partner how you like to be pleasured.